Don't let stuff cost you the ultimate in the long run

My husband and I have gone from having barely any stuff to having a lot of stuff back to barely any stuff again.  When we were first married we spent a lot of time eating and enjoying our dinners together.  We got to know our neighbors because we would take walks but as our marriage progressed we obtained more stuff that required us to work longer hours to afford & maintain.  This stuff required our attention to make sure no one took it from us, we did not lose it and to keep our stuff in tip top shape.  We put our stuff before ourselves and the stuff became the most important part of our topics when we did get a moment to talk.  Now we are back to the barely any stuff and it is so good.  We are back to really hearing each other now and the stuff does not have a voice in our conversation.   There are a few things we consider necessities but those items are the ones that are contributing and pulling their weight in comparison to the time we spend to pay for and maintain.  My husband and I are doing the thriftiest thing a couple can do regardless of the stage of their relationship.  We are not putting stuff before our relationship.  When we see a new toy we first ask what will we sacrificed for this item.  If there is a sacrifice to us we don’t buy if it contributes equal we do.  For instance our cell phones.  We have the plan were we can talk free to each other as much as we want and we can talk with our kids because they have the same plan.  We do not subscribe to text, picture or any other money drainers.  We only use this tool to stay connected and we do not allow it to dominate our existence because someone is forwarding us a joke that interferes with our time.  In connection to our cell phone, when my husband and I are together we do not run to answer that ring unless it is really not interrupting anything.  We work to show each other that we are important and the outside world can wait.

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